Embracing Life's Challenges: Find Healing and Empowerment

Life presents us with a myriad of challenges that can impact our well-being and relationships. Whether you're struggling with difficulties in your personal life, navigating life transitions, or facing challenges related to intimacy, sexuality, or feeling different, I'm here to support you on your journey towards healing and self-discovery.

My goal is to help you uncover your true potential, listen to your inner wisdom, and create a life that is authentically yours.

Are you experiencing any of the following?

• Low sexual desire

• Infidelity or mismatched desires

• Physical or emotional sexual pain

• Erectile dysfunction or concerns about ejaculation

• Delayed or impaired orgasms

• LGBTIA-related health concerns or curiosity

• Sexual trauma or anxiety around sex and sexuality

• Exploration of diverse sexual behaviors, relationship configurations, or non-heteronormative expressions

Perhaps you're:

• Navigating alternative relationship structures like ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, or kink

• Living single, co-parenting, or building chosen families

• Dissatisfied with your current sexual intimacy or facing challenges in communicating your needs

• Struggling with performance anxiety, sexual pain, or low libido

Let's Explore These Questions Together

If you're ready to embrace a path towards greater self-understanding, healing, and empowerment, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can navigate these challenges and create a life that is more fulfilling and aligned with your true self.

Please call or email me to schedule a consultation.

In session, a sex therapist will work to help a person or couple seeking help achieve an improved mental and emotional state in order for them to enjoy a more satisfying sexual experience and/or relationships. Sessions are strictly instructive and verbal, and all exercises and that involve physical contact are performed outside of the session. Sex therapy does not involve having sex with the therapist or being forced to have sexual contact with anyone else.

Therapists may, as part of the process, encourage those in treatment to consider participating in certain intimate activities or exercises with their partner, but a person is never made to do so as part of therapy. Sex therapy is largely a mental and emotional reflection of one’s own internal conflicts, concerns, and/or questions about sex. I tell my clients that often times it is not the “answer” we are looking for right away, but the right “questions” to ask as you move through your journey. Once that is found, our answers are soon to follow usually.

Some types of therapy are very goal focused, step-by-step process, or CBT style of therapy. My orientation is less goal oriented and more process oriented, meaning I do not set a certain number of sessions for us to have all the work done in. I do not dictate or push you in any direction, rather allow a natural flow and gentle openness to happen in the therapeutic dynamic. You know best how to heal “You,” and I am your support in that journey. I may ask questions, give some readings, some homework from time to time, or exercises to do at home, but I never come at the issuing from a place of thinking I know more than you about you. I am a deeply Person-Centered/Humanistic process therapist with some Emotionally Focused, Solutions-Focused, Internal Family Systems, and Depth/Jungian psychology from time to time, if that helps understand my frame I work from.

Also, as a Sex Therapist, there is a moral and ethical obligation that I strictly follow in regards to treatment, safety, dual relationships, and confidentiality as well as professional capacity to help. AASECT has this listed out in their Code of Conduct and is free to read about if you have any questions or concerns. I do not engage in touch, sexual conduct, or interpersonal relationships with any clients.

Keep in mind that my main goal is to help you find the best treatment for your problems you are seeking help with. That may not be with me at times due to specialization focus, and I may need to refer you out to a colleague who may specialize in a very specific need you are having trouble with. I will be honest, respectful, and help you find the right fit and give you options.

I believe therapy is one of your most critical choices in your journey, and one that could be specialized in your growth and healing. The work that I focus on allows for a greater capacity to explore:

• Learning to navigate life transitions, especially around sex and sexuality

• Asking for what you need/want in the bedroom

• Developing the freedom to express your authentic self within intimacy and sexuality

• Understanding consent and consensual sex

• Recognizing barriers to romantic love and removing them

• Finding your voice and becoming free to speak your mind

• Connecting and/or reconnecting to your creative self

• Having more access to pleasure

• Building self-esteem

• Feeling less isolated

• Replacing depression with a wider range of feelings and experiences

• Developing skills to cope with anxiety

What I cannot do

Therapy as a Journey of Exploration and Empowerment, Not a Quick Fix

It's important to understand that therapy isn't about "fixing" people or relationships. I can't change someone's desires or force them to conform to specific expectations. I believe in respecting each individual's autonomy and choices. My approach is humanistic, which means I create a safe and accepting space to explore all aspects of your experiences and help you find solutions that resonate with you.

While I can't control someone's sexual desires or behaviors, I can help you gain a deeper understanding of:

• Sex and sexuality: Exploring your own desires, boundaries, and preferences

• Out-of-control sexual behaviors: Understanding the underlying causes and developing healthier coping mechanisms

• Consent: Communicating and navigating boundaries within your relationship(s)

Together, we'll embark on a journey of curiosity and self-discovery. I'll empower you to make informed decisions based on your newfound knowledge and insights.

Key areas we'll explore:

• Healthy communication: Learning to express your needs and desires effectively

• Self-awareness: Understanding what you want for yourself and within your relationship

• Respecting individual choices: Recognizing that each person has the right to their own desires and boundaries

If someone in your relationship is no longer interested in sex, we'll start by exploring that reality openly and honestly. Remember, therapy is about collaboration and empowerment, not about imposing solutions or dictating behaviors.

Values:

1. Inclusivity: I welcome clients of all backgrounds, orientations, and identities with respect and empathy.

2. Empowerment: I empower individuals and couples to explore their desires, overcome obstacles, and cultivate fulfilling relationships.

3. Authenticity: I believe in the importance of authenticity and self-discovery, encouraging clients to embrace their true selves without judgment.

4. Compassion: I approach therapy with compassion, understanding, and non-judgmental support, creating a safe space for healing and growth.

5. Collaboration: I collaborate with clients to co-create personalized treatment plans that honor their unique needs and goals.

Therapeutic Orientations

As a therapist, I strive to fit the work with the client’s needs. This, at its core, relies on creating a safe, trusting container for the client to explore their needs, thoughts, dreams, and issues that they come to work on. The various therapeutic lens that I use help hold that container so they have all tools available at their disposal. My main therapy orientations I utilize moves through Humanistic, Relational, and Mindfulness based practices, with Depth (Jungian), Internal Family Systems, and at times Somatic based approaches such as Hakomi.

Humanistic Therapy
Humanistic psychology (humanism) is grounded in the belief that people are innately good. This type of psychology holds that morality, ethical values, and good intentions are the driving forces of behavior, while adverse social or psychological experiences can be attributed to deviations from natural tendencies. Self actualization is the key here.

Mindfulness Based Therapy
Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) combines cognitive behavioral techniques with mindfulness strategies in order to help individuals better understand and manage their thoughts and emotions in order to achieve relief from feelings of distress.

Relational Therapy
Relational psychotherapy, an approach that can help individuals recognize the role relationships play in the shaping of daily experiences, attempts to help people understand patterns appearing in the thoughts and feelings they have toward themselves.

With all three of my orientations, my goal is that we work together, and I see you as a human, and someone who shares common goals, aspirations, and desires that a majority of us have. By viewing the 'whole' you and how you relate to your world, I gain a clear understanding and capacity to work with you to create a safe space to do the work together. I am right there with you every step of the way.

I offer ally focused, inclusive, socially aware and progressive, sex positive, non-shaming therapy for all individuals regardless of race, orientation, gender, or disability.

I am also a Veteran and offer compassionate and and conscious therapy for Veterans and their family.