DR. ADRIAN
SCHARFETTER
PHD, LMFT, CST-S

As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I help individuals and couples navigate challenges like:

• Low or mismatched sexual desire

• Infidelity or ruptures in trust

• Performance anxiety or difficulties with orgasm and arousal

• Shame, anxiety, or discomfort around sexuality

• Sexual trauma and healing

• Identity exploration and LGBTQIA+ affirmation

• Issues around non-monogamy/polyamory dynamics

• Helping with communication in relationships

• Understand the body-mind connection and how to work towards intimacy

As a sex and relationship therapist, I take a strength-based approach to help individuals and couples rediscover connection, confidence, and joy in their intimate lives. Rather than focusing only on what feels broken or stuck, we begin by identifying what is working—your inner resources, communication tools, emotional insight, and capacity for growth.

This approach creates a space that’s free of shame and full of possibility. Together, we’ll explore how to build on your strengths to address challenges like low desire, sexual pain, anxiety, mismatched libidos, or patterns of disconnection. You’ll gain new ways to understand your body, your needs, and your relational dynamics—without pathologizing your experiences.

When we focus on strengths, therapy becomes empowering rather than defeating. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about reconnecting you with the version of yourself that already knows how to love, express, and connect authentically.

I also use a somatic therapy approach, which is a holistic approach to healing that emphasizes the connection between mind and body. By focusing on bodily sensations, movement, and physical awareness, somatic therapy helps individuals process trauma, emotions, and stress stored in the body. This therapeutic orientation recognizes that our experiences, both emotional and physical, are interwoven, and that addressing the body’s responses can lead to deeper healing and insight.

Whether you’re coming to therapy as an individual or with a partner, this work can help you move from frustration or confusion into clarity, curiosity, and deeper intimacy.

I work with all genders and orientations, as well as relationship needs, both individually and as coupes. I also support clients who are exploring or living within alternative relationship structures—such as ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, or chosen family. Whether you’re solo, partnered, co-parenting, or somewhere in between, this work is about aligning with your values and reclaiming your voice in love and intimacy.

My approach to you is relational, trauma-informed, and nonjudgmental. I offer a space where your full story is welcome—where we slow down, get honest, and make room for healing, discovery, and meaningful connection.

Are you ready to schedule a session? Next steps are:

• Head over to my scheduling page

• Pick a time to set a 10 min consultation

• We will have our brief call to solidify our time and fee structure

• You will then receive all needed paperwork, and soon after our link for our video session for our selected day and time for our first meeting