DR. ADRIAN
SCHARFETTER
PHD, LMFT, CST-S
Where Depth Meets Desire
Sex Therapy & Relationship Counseling
for Individuals and Couples Seeking
Depth, Healing, and Connection
Many of the people I work with are thoughtful, self-aware, and successful in many areas of life—
but when it comes to sex, desire, or intimacy, they find themselves feeling stuck, disconnected,
or unsure how to ask for what they truly want.
You don’t have to navigate this alone
Dr. Adrian Scharfetter, PhD, LMFT, CST-S
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
CA License # 113824
Business Days: Monday - Tuesday - Wednesday - Thursday
Email for Appointment Availability
Facebook: Athenian Counseling
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As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I help individuals and couples navigate challenges like:
Low or mismatched sexual desire
Infidelity or ruptures in trust
Performance anxiety or difficulties with orgasm and arousal
Shame, anxiety, or discomfort around sexuality
Sexual trauma and healing
Identity exploration and LGBTQIA+ affirmation
Issues around non-monogamy/polyamory dynamics
Helping with communication in relationships
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As a sex and relationship therapist, I take a strength-based approach to help individuals and couples rediscover connection, confidence, and joy in their intimate lives. Rather than focusing only on what feels broken or stuck, we begin by identifying what is working—your inner resources, communication tools, emotional insight, and capacity for growth.
This approach creates a space that’s free of shame and full of possibility. Together, we’ll explore how to build on your strengths to address challenges like low desire, sexual pain, anxiety, mismatched libidos, or patterns of disconnection. You’ll gain new ways to understand your body, your needs, and your relational dynamics—without pathologizing your experiences.
When we focus on strengths, therapy becomes empowering rather than defeating. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about reconnecting you with the version of yourself that already knows how to love, express, and connect authentically.
Whether you’re coming to therapy as an individual or with a partner, this work can help you move from frustration or confusion into clarity, curiosity, and deeper intimacy.
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I also support clients who are exploring or living within alternative relationship structures—such as ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, or chosen family. Whether you’re solo, partnered, co-parenting, or somewhere in between, this work is about aligning with your values and reclaiming your voice in love and intimacy.
My approach to you is relational, trauma-informed, and nonjudgmental. I offer a space where your full story is welcome—where we slow down, get honest, and make room for healing, discovery, and meaningful connection.
